7696: advice and opinions please (fwd)

[Bob Corbett <corbetre@webster.edu>]

From: Anez14u@aol.com

Dear List Members:
     I need some advice, or at least opinions, from my friends.  I wonder if 
you would read this excerpt from a letter I recently received, from a close 
friend and trusted associate who recently returned from a service mission to 
Haiti, and give me your thoughts and opinions on what I might or should do.  
The last time I sought help from the list and mentioned this child background 
of being cursed and abused, I received so much nasty and defensive feedback 
from the usual sharp tongued list orators that I vowed not to go there again 
but, here I go---
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 "Tommy, I have a small piece of information about your foster child's mother 
that I have dragged my feet about telling you---some of my Haitian friends 
here felt it was extremely important that you know.  When I was in Haiti with 
Bryan our "negotiations" with Pastor P---it was with much sadness that P told 
me that the child's Mother is being greatly persecuted in her village----she 
has been beaten, she has lost a tooth and survived a machete attack.  All 
directed at her due to your adopted child's situation.  I think they hate the 
fact that the child has achieved the "ultimate" in the U.S. despite being 
cursed.  Long range I think it is a major concern that Both she and the child 
could be in danger should he/she manage to get to Haiti.  I believe that a 
visit from her/him would endanger the mother's life as well as his/her own.  
How I wish I better understood the Haitian ways.  There, I've told you and as 
the child's parent you should do what's best with the information---maybe 
never telling him/her is the best answer.  I will tell you that it distresses 
Pastor P greatly.  I am not sure that even he understands why
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     I have know for some time that my child feels he/she would be hurt if 
he/she were to go home, even for a visit.  I am currently helping his/her 
family, to what limited extent I am able.  I have heard from Pastor P that 
they are building a better home there for themselves.  I wonder if this, and 
subsequently I have, has hurt or helped the family.
     Any feedback you can give regarding the situation there would be deeply 
appreciated.  I am not at all interested in hearing a bunch of rubbish 
defending the cursing of innocent children.
Respectfully submitted
Tommy