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8466: Re: 8451: Financially challenged CAN adopt -Bushey (fwd)
From: Anez14u@aol.com
Lauri,
Thanks for stating so well what I felt, and what I think many list
readers must have felt, while reading Mr./MS. Senou's response to my original
posting (#8395 6/21). I received many kind responses to my request for
advice for my friends who are considering adopting a Haitian child. I
thanked the senders and forwarded their comments on to my two minister
friends who are considering the adoption. I forwarded all but one I should
say--that one was the one to which you responded. It made me so angry to
believe that anyone thinks money is the most important ingredient in a parent
child relationship that I truly felt I would not dignify the Senour posting
with a response-now, after having read yours, I realize that I really should
have said what utter and complete nonsense I thought this response was based
on. Most of what you posted I can simply say ditto to. I have a 14 year old
son that I brought back when I went over on a mission trip to Haiti four
years ago. I brought him home with me because he had been terribly abused
and victimized in his home country. He is now the center and light of my
life. It has been a daily struggle to make ends meet but we have had a
wealth of help for anything we could not handle such as Shriner's for
surgeries, church camp scholarships, priorate school with extra tutorial help
via scholarships, etc. etc etc. I am an elderly man trying to get by on a
Social Security Disability of $600 and what I can pick up with part time work
as possible (never to exceed $700 a month). My son has had numerous offers
to be adopted or placed with a more traditional family and by choice has
always said no way. He is a happy, well adjusted, very popular young man who
has trophies to show his outstanding talents in drama, dance, trumpet,
baseball, basketball, soccer and volunteer community services (not bad for a
child who could not walk less than 4 years ago). I do not consider us
deprived at all--we have each other and that is more than either of us ever
had before.
The young couple who are considering the adoption are thinking about it
because of their relationship with my son and myself. They are both
ministers with small congregations and together probably fall far short of
$45,000 a year. What they do have is a wonderfully loving, safe, and
sheltering home in a great community of caring people. I know many people
who have adopted children from Haiti but I really do not think any of them
fall in that income category.
Thanks again for responding to the Senou posting as I should have and
best of His blessings be given to you and your child.
Tommy Henderson